Rapid Change Coaching Session – Toddler Tamer **FREE OFFER**

Do you feel like your toddler is running your household? Stressed and exhausted by your toddlers behaviour? Struggling to cope when your little angel turns into a little devil? Tired of tantrums?

Your toddler is constantly testing boundaries, it’s natural, but it can be hard to cope and find the best ways to deal with challenges without feeling like all you do is tell them off.

After this session you will:

- Have a clear vision of the positive behaviour you expect from your toddler;
– Uncover challenges that sabotage your efforts to manage and improve your toddler’s behaviour;
– Feel confident that you can be the kind of parent who inspires positive behaviour.

I can only offer this as a free session to a limited number of applicants, so to claim a free 30 minute session all you have to do is email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com quoting Toddler Tamer offer and giving your answers to the following questions:

1. Which of your toddler’s behaviours do you find most challenging?
2. One a scale of 1-10 how much would you say this is impacting family life?
3. What is the most important thing to you about improving your toddler’s behaviour?(eg less battles at home, less stressful going out to public places, more positive relationship)

Don’t forget to include your name and where you are in the world (for time zones) so I can get in touch to schedule your appointment.

After this please like and share the Unfold Your Wings Facebook page so that even if you are one of the lucky early responders this time, then you can still hear about future offers and view free advice and tips from Unfold Your Wings on Facebook, and you can help your friends by sharing all this great advice with them too. You may also like to follow the blog on the Unfold Your Wings Website.

Looking forward to working with you

Ruth

Relationship Rescue Coaching Session Offer (FREE!)

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Free Relationship Rescue Coaching Session
Hot Limited Offer

Are you having issues in your relationship? Are things not what they used to be? Don’t feel like you have much in common anymore? Worried what the future holds for you and your partner as a couple?

If so then solutions may be closer than you think. They key is effective communication and clear expectations for the relationship. How great would it be to enjoy each others company as much as you used to and to recover the old magic?

For a limited time I am offering a completely free, one to one telephone coaching session just for you. It’s called Relationship Rescue, and during this session we will work together to:

Create a clear vision of the happy relationship you want
Uncover the challenges that are putting a strain on your relationship
Leave you feeling inspired to work on your relationship and make it the partnership of your dreams

I can only offer this as a free session to a limited number of applicants, so to claim a free 30 minute session all you have to do is email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com quoting Relationship Rescue offer and giving your answers to the following questions:

1. How long have you been in your relationship?
2. One a scale of 1-10 how important is it to you to save this relationship?
3. What are the biggest challenges your relationship is currently facing?

Don’t forget to include your name and where you are in the world (for time zones) so I can get in touch to schedule your appointment.

After this please like and share the Unfold Your Wings Facebook page so that even if you are one of the lucky early responders this time, then you can still hear about future offers and view free advice and tips from Unfold Your Wings on Facebook, and you can help your friends by sharing all this great advice with them too. You may also like to follow this blog too.

Looking forward to working with you

Ruth

Discover the benefits of journalling

Journalling can be used in many ways, but coaches and therapists often recommend this method for people experiencing a variety of emotional difficulties. It can be helpful for goal setting as well as reflection, or simply to get thoughts out of your head and into the open safely, so you can address them positively.

I have written several articles and coaching programs on journalling. One series of  three of these articles can be found here.

http://www.lifecoachhub.com/coaching-articles/should-you-share-your-problems

http://www.lifecoachhub.com/coaching-articles/airing-versus-sharing-the-benefits-of-journaling-and-writing-therapy

http://www.lifecoachhub.com/coaching-articles/how-to-write-a-journal

If you would like more support and guidance on the subject please contact me directly.

Ruth

Didn’t get the job?

Isn’t it horrible when you don’t get a job that you’ve applied for. Sometimes you might tell yourself that you’re not really bothered about the job, that you’re just going for interview experience, but let’s face it, there’s a lot of effort involved in job applications. You either have to fill in a long form or go through seemingly endless web forms (after setting up an account and logging in of course) and drop-down menus, entering your experience, qualification etc, etc, and then the hardest part of all, the person specification. Writing about yourself can be hard, and you want to be able to show all your strengths, skills and experiences so that your prospective employer knows you are just the person they need.  Even the best applications get rejected sometimes though, and this is usually not a personal reflection on you, more likely that another applicant had slightly more specific experience than you did on this occasion. But it’s hard not to take it personally, or wonder what you did wrong or why they didn’t like you. It’s easy to get into a cycle of second-guessing what you said in your application, or over-analysing what you said in the interview. What if you had answered differently, maybe you should have said this, or that. Remember, this is not about you being wrong, it’s about the person who got the job being just right.  There is more guidance on the subject here http://www.lifecoachhub.com/coaching-articles/didn-t-get-the-job-dealing-with-interview-rejection or contact me directly for more support. In the meantime it helps to surround yourself with supportive and positive people and experiences, be kind to yourself and keep your thoughts positive too.

Ruth

Don’t Be Misunderstood – Make Communication Work for You

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Effective Communication Coaching

The swan in the picture above has given up, no-one is listening to him, they don’t understand, does anyone even speak the same language? Sound familiar?
Learning to be more aware of the language patterns you use, and learning to really listen to the language patterns of others, is the first step to effective communication. Getting your point of view across, being listened to and understood, and avoiding misunderstanding what others are trying to communicate to you, can make a huge difference to your daily life and your relationships with family, friends and colleagues. To begin changing your world with life coaching, book a free consultation by emailing me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.

Ruth

Believe in Yourself – Get Confident!

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Have you noticed those people who always seem to have confidence in themselves? They don’t seem to worry whether they can achieve something, or whether they will fail, they don’t put themselves down or voice any doubts about themselves or their abilities. Why would they? They know that they can do it, the know they will succeed, they don’t wonder whether or not people will like them or whether they will look foolish and be criticized. They know how to take compliments, of course they do – why would they expect anything less, they believe in themselves so they expect others to as well.

Learn to change the way you view yourself and focus on positive self talk rather than negative self talk and criticism. Learn to respond and react differently to doubts and setbacks so that you don’t blame yourself for mistakes. Get confident, believe in yourself, and others will too.
Self esteem and self confidence issues can affect so many aspects of your life, contact me to find out how to overcome them and change your point of view.

Life Coaching Articles – gratitude and positive thinking

Follow the link for some great advice on gratitude and positive thinking.

https://www.lifecoachhub.com/coaching-articles/how-to-change-your-mood

10 Everyday Activities to Help Clear Your Mind and Regain Focus

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Sometimes there just seems to be so much going on in your head that you start to feel pressurized and you can’t think straight. Things you need to do, stuff to remember, task to complete, demands on your time and attention, or worries and problems. You can’t possibly expect to create solutions or achieve successful outcomes in all this chaos, so it’s time to take a step away, take some time out, and start again with more clarity.

How can I take time out when there’s so much to do? You might ask. I don’t have time to relax or meditate. Maybe not – so make your tasks part of the time out.  The following activities are examples of things you could immerse yourself in for a while and give your mind a chance to re-organise and re-order itself.

1. Gardening – Potting plants, cutting grass, snipping and pruning, watering. Nurturing is good for you.

2. Ironing – Personally, not one of my favourite chores, it but it’s amazing how it can calm the mind.

3.  Housework – Polishing, vacuuming, sweeping and mopping. None of these are mentally challenging at all. Give your mind a rest.

4.  Walking the dog – An essential part of pet care and great exercise for both of you. Time with your pet and his simple outlook on life is a great way to get things in perspective.

5.  Painting/decorating – You can absorb yourself in this for hours while your mind takes a break. The satisfaction of a job well done is great too.

6.  Get out in nature –  Walk in the park and feed the ducks, stroll through the woods and listen to the birdsong. The healing properties of nature are amazing.

7.  Exercise – As a very unsporty person I struggle with this one, but a walk or swim is always good. I have a friend who swears that when she goes out for a run she comes back a different woman.  If you actively take part in a sport then you will already know how it focuses your mind.

8.  Be creative – Draw, paint, knit, sew, write a poem. If you don’t have any creative projects to do then just have a play around with fabrics or pencils. There are loads of tutorials on the internet. Give something a try.

9. Read – Find somewhere quiet where you won’t be interrupted and settle down with a great book.

10. Bake a cake/Make cookies – An extension of being creative, baking is another activity you can really get absorbed in to. Enjoying the end product is great too.

After a few hours or taking some time out you may feel relaxed, you may feel motivated, you may feel pleased with your achievements (ironing/decorating all finished, delicious cake made), and if your concerns, pressures and worries haven’t gone away, then you will definitely feel much more able to deal with them.

I love to hear about your experiences, so please share them with me. Comments welcome below or email unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.

Ruth

 

Get positive – start by being grateful

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Being positive can be really hard when you feel like everything is going wrong or it’s ‘one thing after another’. If you can just manage one small positive act or thought then it really can begin to change how you feel, and each positive thought makes the next one just that little bit easier.

People facing huge crises in their lives will or course find it much more difficult, and understandably so, but all of us feel like everything is stacked against us from time to time, or have days where you just think ‘what’s the point’. You may even just be having ‘one of those days’.

The best way is to start small and be grateful for the small positive things in your day. The train was one time – yay! It didn’t rain while I walked the dog – yay! That headache I had when I went to bed has gone – yay! If you are really scratching around for things to be grateful for, then just be glad nothing has gone wrong this morning, or be glad there was enough milk for your coffee. Be grateful for your safe home, or that your children are healthy, or that you haven’t got a horrible next door neighbour. If you look hard enough you can find something to be grateful for or to be happy about. In fact you can probably find quite a lot once you really think about it.

Once you have your positive thoughts and your ‘attitude of gratitude’, focus on it for a while. Be fully aware of how these positive things make you feel, enjoy experiencing gratitude and pleasure. Do this for a while and the positivity will increase, and you will most likely notice more positive experiences because now you will be tuned into them, and not into feeling dissatisfied, stressed or miserable. The more positive energy and thoughts you create, the more you will experience. This is a very general version of how the law of attraction works on it’s most basic level, but it’s also the way that changing your outlook and how you chose to view certain situations and respond to them can change your perception, feelings and behaviour.

Try it for yourself. I would love to hear about your first positive thought to get you started, or what you chose to be grateful about. However small, those first steps are the most important so please share them. Tweet me on @ruthlrandall or post below or on the Unfold Your Wings Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/unfoldyourwings

Have a great and happy day

Ruth x