Group Coaching Workshop in Hertfordshire

Are you ready to make changes? Join us at an informal life coaching workshop at Travelodge Hatfield, Hertfordshire, on Monday 1st June 2015. Find out how coaching can help you to overcome barriers, change limiting beliefs, overcome barriers and stay motivated to achieve your goals. Break unhelpful patterns of behaviour and achieve balance and satisfaction in your life.

Tickets are available at Eventbrite
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Life Coaching Workshop at Travelodge Hatfield

Monday, Jun 1, 2015, 7:30 PM

Location details are available to members only.

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Join us for an informal group coaching workshop. Find out how coaching can help you to overcome barriers, change limiting beliefs, overcome barriers and stay motivated to achieve your goals. Break unhelpful patterns of behaviour and achieve balance and satisfaction in your life.*HALF PRICE OFFER*£5.00 per personThere is parking available at the …

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This event is offered at half the usual price, and spaces are very limited. Hope to see you there.

Hertfordshire Area Coaching Walks and Workshops

verulamium park

Have you joined the Meetup Group yet? We arrange informal coaching walks in parks or by lakesides, and also small group coaching workshops. These are currently in Hertfordshire and surrounding areas. If you are interested in personal development, have a goal you’re struggling to achieve or a challenge to overcome, then why not join us.

Follow the link http://www.meetup.com/Herts-Group-Coaching-Nature-Walks/

Personal Development Coaching and Wellbeing Nature Walks

If you are looking for things to do in Hertfordshire this spring and summer, why not join us. If you need motivation and would like to find out what personal transformation coaching can do for you, come along to this information coaching walk and find out how coaching whilst walking in nature could benefit you. There’s no charge for these informal events, with St Albans and Hertford already scheduled and other areas of Hertfordshire coming up, so you can join any or all of them. You may even decide to book an individual session or join a more structured group coaching event. Either way,it would be great to have you with us.

You can join here on Meetup and RSVP to the walk you would like – http://www.meetup.com/Herts-Personal-Development-and-Wellbeing-in-Nature/

Or here on Eventbrite for the May walk in St Albans – https://www.eventbrite.com/e/personal-development-coaching-and-wellbeing-nature-walk-tickets-16678943168

or the June walk in Hertford – https://www.eventbrite.com/e/personal-development-coaching-and-wellbeing-nature-walk-tickets-16679285191

For more information you can follow me on Facebook and Twitter by following the links, or contact me using the details on the Contact tab in the menu.

I hope to meet you on a walk soon.

Ruth

Some Methods to Combat Daily Anxiety

Anxiety is often caused by a fear of something you believe may happen, rather than an actual event. Be aware of yourself and recognise when you start to feel anxious. Breathe slowly to help you to focus, then identify the specific thing that is causing your anxiety. What is it that you think might happen? Why do you believe this will happen. You may be thinking of several possible scenarios or outcomes. Look at each one objectively and establish what it is about each possible situation that makes you anxious. Some situations are out of your control but you can control how you respond or react.

Ask yourself these questions:
What specifically am I afraid will happen?
What is the likely outcome of the situation I am imagining?
What action can I take to avoid this situation from occuring?
How have I dealt with situations like this in the past?
If I am unable to avoid the situation from occuring, what can I do to minimise it’s impact, using the skills and strengths I already have?
Whatever the outcome, how important will this feel one week from now? Or one month?
Let’s look at the example of being stuck in traffic and feeling stressed and anxious. Are you worried about being late for work? There is likely to be a much more specific outcome that is making you anxious. So what are the possible outcomes of being late? You could get behind with your workload and beunable to catch up, or are you worried about being in trouble with your boss if you are late? Are you already envisaging having to spend the rest of the day working extra hard to try and catch up, apologising to customers and colleagues affected by you falling behind? Are you dreading a difficult conversation with your boss about timekeeping?
Accept the things that you cannot control, in this case the traffic. You can, however, control your beliefs, your reaction and your response. In this example you could take back control by phoning ahead to warn the boss that you will be late. Agree to work through your break or stay late to catch up. Think of the tasks you need to do and change the priorities is necessary, so that urgent work is done first. Understand that your boss may have to speak to you about being late, but don’t take it personally. Remind yourself that this is just part of their responsibility when running a business. The conversation may happen, but then you can move forward.

Putting things in context and seeing the bigger picture makes them much easier to handle. The lack of control can be stressful enough in itself, but breaking a situation down into elements that you can control makes it much more manageable.

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For help with personal development, having a positive outlook, overcoming your barriers and achieving your goals, email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.
I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at the address above if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)

Things to stop doing – things to do instead

THINGS TO STOP DOING  ( THINGS TO DO INSTEAD )

Procrastinating   (Taking action)

Blaming yourself or others (Accepting then moving forward)

Avoiding  (Preparing and then facing)

Trying to control everything  (Control what you can, accept what you can’t)

Negative self talk  (Treating yourself with love and kindness)

Judging/criticising  (Accepting without judgment)

Running from your fears  (Figuring out why you’re afraid, then challenging)

Living in the past  (Living in the present, being open to the future)

Trying to be who you are not  (Being authentic)

Being ungrateful   (Practising daily gratitude)

Over-reacting   (Keeping things in perspective)

Need some help? Try coaching. Take a look around the site to see if you would prefer online, telephone, or outdoor coaching (Herts area) and email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com

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Three Top Tips to Make More Time for You

1. Keep a detailed diary for two weeks and record exactly how you spend every minute of your day. You will be amazed how much time you actually have and how you are wasting it on things that aren’t important. Start to think of your time like a currency, and you will be much more careful where you are spending it.

2. List the things that you have to do each day, the things you do which you enjoy, and the things you wish you had more time for. Be as selfish as you want to, after all this is your time, and everyone else has their own 24 hours to spend as they choose, so don’t allocate your time doing things for other people unless it’s something you really want to do for them, or something really important which they couldn’t do for themselves.

3. Draw up a blank table for two weeks and start to enter all the things from your list in order of importance to you. Double up tasks where you can to save time (make tomorrows picnic lunch while waiting for dinner to cook, run errands on the way home from work to avoid making extra trips). Take advantage of supermarkets home deliveries for groceries. You will be surprised how much time you have when you are more mindful of how you spend it. If there are things which are just for you, treat them with as much importance as you would going to work or attending an appointment. You are more likely to do something if you have a specific time allocated to it.

To join the Unfold Your Wings Community and receive the monthly newsletter with, motivation, inspiration, books and offers direct to your inbox, click this link http://eepurl.com/ToyJz  or go to the ‘subscribe’ tab on the menu.
For help with personal development, having a positive outlook, overcoming your barriers and achieving your goals, email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.
I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at the address above if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)

Three Top Tips to De-stress or Distract You

1. Get out in nature. Go for a walk in the woods, feed the ducks at the park, sit by a lake and watch the wildlife. Fresh air and nature are amazing healers and de-stressers. Even if it’s cold and wet, a short five minute break outside can really help you regain control and focus.

2. Do something creative. Bake a cake, knit a hat, paint a picture, plant flowers in the garden or a window box, write a poem, use your imagination and let creativity flow. Even people who say they aren’t creative can manage to plant a few herbs in a pot or colour in a picture. Either have a finished product in mind and focus on creating it, or just see where your imagination takes you and enjoy the creative process.

3. De-clutter, clean up and re-organise. Having a good clear out of clutter is so satisfying and the end result will be a clearer and more relaxing environment. Get the rubbish sacks ready, fill up boxes for the charity shop, open windows, wash all the linen and dry it outside if you can. Be free of all the things that no longer serve a purpose for you, and enjoy relaxing in the space you create.

To join the Unfold Your Wings Community and receive the monthly newsletter with, motivation, inspiration, books and offers direct to your inbox, click this link http://eepurl.com/ToyJz  or go to the ‘subscribe’ tab on the menu.
For help with personal development, having a positive outlook, overcoming your barriers and achieving your goals, email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.
I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at the address above if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)

Three Top Confidence Boosters

1. Don’t criticise yourself. It sounds obvious but we can be our own worst enemies. Negative self talk isn’t helpful and can only harm your self-esteem. You wouldn’t do it to someone else, so don’t treat yourself in this way either. Treat yourself with kindness and respect.

2. When your confidence is low, or before facing a personal challenge, write down your best attributes. This can be hard at first if you aren’t used to giving yourself praise, so start with the little things. Maybe you make a great cup of coffee, or you always remember people’s birthdays. Think of all your talents, physical attributes, and great personality traits. Use this list whenever you need a confidence boost or extra courage to take on a new challenge.
3. Treat yourself well. Make a list of things you enjoy. It doesn’t have mean spending huge amounts of cash but you can if you want to, after all you are worth it. Perhaps you love long walks in the countryside, going to the theatre, even just a couple of hours to yourself to read a great book without interruptions, or going for a swim. Make a date with yourself to do each of these things as often as you can manage, and stick to it.

To join the Unfold Your Wings Community and receive the monthly newsletter with, motivation, inspiration, books and offers direct to your inbox, click this link http://eepurl.com/ToyJz  or go to the ‘subscribe’ tab on the menu.
For help with personal development, having a positive outlook, overcoming your barriers and achieving your goals, email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.
I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at the address above if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)

Coaching with a Difference

People with learning disabilities and differences experience life in their own very individual way, and this can lead to difficulty in communication, self-expression, building relationships and often challenging behaviour.

Few coaches offer specialised services for people with learning disabilities. I have several years experience of working with people who have learning disabilities and have supported people with confidence building, self-expression, communication,  travel training, building community links and support to work in volunteer roles. I have provided intensive interaction for people with complex and multiple needs to help enhance communication and build relationships with others. I am able to use Makaton to enhance verbal and non-verbal communication.

I have an enhanced DBS check which is reviewed annually, and qualifications in Health and Social care. I also have specific training in working with individuals with autism, complex and multiple needs, learning disabilities with mental health issues, intensive interaction, sensory differences and the role of positive touch, and supporting individuals with challenging behaviour.

I prefer to work alongside parents or carers, partly because of the vulnerable nature of this particular client group, but also because parents and carers knowledge of the client  is essential to the success of any program. It’s also important to share skills and techniques with the people who are central to the life of the client so that they can continue to build confidence and communication long after the program has finished. Each session will include feedback and idea sharing with parents and carers.

At present I am only able to offer this service in Hertfordshire and surrounding areas.

Services will depend entirely on the needs of the individual, but include intensive interaction, enhancing communication, identifying causes of challenging behaviour, and coaching to build confidence. Please contact me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com, using the title ‘Coaching with a Difference’ in your email.

This service is not intended to, and does not, replace the essential services provided by your healthcare professionals, but is a way of enhancing the services and support you already receive.