Last Chance to Get Your FREE copy of How to Break Free from a Toxic Friendship E-book

I promised a free copy of this e-book for everyone who signs up for the Unfold Your Wings newsletter by the end of February, so you have just two days left.

Click on this link http://eepurl.com/ToyJz or click on the ‘join us’ tab to get your free copy and subscribe to newsletters and future offers from Unfold Your Wings.

To claim a FREE coaching session with me – click here http://wp.me/P4ycmZ-8R or on the tab at the top of the page.

I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)

New Family and Parenting Coaching website

On 1st March I will be launching a new coaching website offering services specifically for families and parents.  Being a parent is the best but toughest job in the world and there’s no instruction manual.  I’ve been working with parents and families for a long time, and I answer a lot of questions from people about parenting and family relationships,  so this new website will cover just this aspect.

Keep checking in here, follow @ruthlrandall on Twitter,  or join the Unfold Your Wings community for more updates.

Ruth

Don’t give up. Aim to be smoke-free.

If you made a new year resolution to stop smoking, how are you getting on? Sadly most new year resolutions fall apart by February, but although being smoke free is incredibly hard, you can do it.

I often hear people say ‘I’ve got no willpower’, or ‘I always want a cigarette when I go out for a drink.’ With smoking you are not only struggling against the addiction to nicotine, but also trying to break some very deeply ingrained habits and behaviours as well. So no wonder you might be struggling.

Coaching can help you to change these behaviours and habits, and to stick to it. You can get a free telephone coaching session here http://wp.me/P4ycmZ-8R , but in the meantime, try these tips:

1. Be clear on your goal as the thing you are aiming for, not what you are giving up. When you talk about giving up it becomes very negative, you are denying yourself something, and you will only focus on it more. State you goal as being ‘smoke free’. Something to work towards, not away from.  Be sure of your reasons too. Why do you want to be smoke-free? Is it for health, because of the expense, or other reasons? Whatever the reasons, make sure they are your own reasons and not someone elses. Your partner may want you to be smoke-free, but you have to want it yourself too.

2. Have a measureable plan. Allow yourself the time you need to adjust your behaviour. Concentrate on small steps and have clear checkpoints along the way to measure your progress. If you are smoke free for a week, then a fortnight, then a month, these small victories should be celebrated.

3.  Be realistic about your plan. Being smoke free is a challenge. If you have smoked for many years, your partner smokes and your friends smoke, then you will find it harder, but you can do it. Look at adjustments you can make in your life to make things easier for yourself.

4. Set a time limit for yourself and keep to it. If you want to be smoke free in three months, don’t put things off or go past that time. Take action from day one and keep your focus.

5. Get help if you need it. You need to take ownership of your goal and your plan to get there, but it’s okay to ask for help and support. Tell people you are aiming to be smoke free and ask them to help you to avoid temptation or situations that might make it hard for you to resist smoking.

To join the Unfold Your Wings Life Coaching Community and receive the monthly newsletter with, motivation, inspiration, book news and offers direct to your inbox, click this link http://eepurl.com/ToyJz  or go to the ‘join us’ tab on the menu.
For help with personal development, having a positive outlook, overcoming your barriers and achieving your goals, email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.
I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at the address above if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)

Free book extract – How to Break Free from a Toxic Friendship

When did you last review your friendships? Is there something that just isn’t working for you anymore/ Friendships and relationships can be healed, but sometimes a friendship can become toxic and harmful to your health. ‘How to Break Free from a Toxic Friendship’ by Ruth L Randall  is now available on Amazon Kindle and you can buy it here

If you would like a free extract from the book, sign up for Unfold Your Wings monthly email newsletter in time for the February edition, which includes 2 free chapters. Get it here http://eepurl.com/ToyJz or click on the Join Us tab.

Ruth

If You Could Wave a Magic Wand ……

If you could wave a magic wand and change anything you wanted to, how would your life be different?

Visualise your ideal life.

Where would you be? What would you be doing? Who would be with you? What would it look like? What would it sound like?

How different is this ideal life from the one you have now? Believe it or not, you can create a new life for yourself without the magic wand if you set realistic goals and make a commitment to taking action.

I want to help you create this magic for yourself.  I’m offering a free goal setting coaching email session for anyone who subscribes to the Unfold Your Wings monthly newsletter before the end of February. Subscribe here http://eepurl.com/ToyJz or by clicking the Join Us tab.  As well as life coaching tips, motivation and inspiration, this month I’ll send you a life goal setting template to complete and you can send it back to me for personal individual feedback and coaching tips to set you in the right direction.

Wave that magic wand and change your life.

What are Your Life Goals?

Before you can make any changes in life you need to know your goals. I’m offering free personalised goal-setting life coaching tips to everyone in the Unfold Your Wings Community. Join us before the end of February and I’ll send you a Life Goal Setting form to complete and email back to me. I’ll review your form individually and email you back with feedback and free goal setting tips to help you get started making those changes.  This is a really powerful life change tool so don’t miss out. Join Unfold Your Wings here http://eepurl.com/ToyJz or by clicking the Join Us tab at the top of the page.

I’m looking forward to helping you make those positive changes.

Joining us means that you will also be subscribed to the monthly newsletter, and as bonus the February edition will include an extract of my new book How to Break Free from a Toxic Friendship.

Change Your Life in a Month with Life Coaching from Unfold Your Wings

Take a moment to think of the things you would love to change in your life.  Do you fancy a new career? Do you always wish you could have more time for yourself? Are you looking for a new direction? Do you have relationships that no longer seem to fit?
What holds you back? Are you worried about failure? Do you lack confidence? Do you always put others needs before your own? Does the thought of change make you anxious?
Imagine if you could feel more confident. How would it feel to have positive mindset and an attitude that could help you get where you want to be. You might be surprised at what you can achieve with the support to set you in the right direction. Imagine if all this were possible in just a month.
These coaching programs are designed to create rapid change in your life. All programs include five telephone or online individual coaching sessions and email support throughout the month. After our initial consultation I will design a program specifically for you including all the tools you will need, such as journalling, positive mindset tools, language change methods, and planning and reflecting tasks.
A Change Your Life program costs £250 and although the sessions are only for a month, the methods you have learned will stay with you for life, so you can apply them again and again.

Email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com to tell me about yourself and the changes you want to make.
I look forward to working with you.
Ruth

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Be Patient

If you are trying to achieve something in life and it seems to be taking forever, take a step back and stop pushing. Often our impatience can be a barrier to getting where we want to be as putting ourselves under more pressure just causes anxiety and stress which is then counterproductive. Look at the situation objectively. Is it really taking too long? Are you getting nowhere fast? Then it could be time to re-asses or change your plans. Stay positive, work on overcoming your fears of failure, and trust in a successful outcome.

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For help with personal development, having a positive outlook, overcoming your barriers and achieving your goals, email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.
I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at the address above if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)

Are you remembering to be kind?

At the beginning of the year I talked about daily acts of kindness, but asked that you not only be kind to others, but also make a conscious effort to be kind to yourself each day too.

I hope you have been able to include acts of kindness in your daily life. Remember that it can be really simple things like paying someone a compliment or letting another driver join the queue of traffic ahead of you. The best acts of kindness are the ones for which nothing is expected in return, so don’t think in terms of doing favours for people as this can give the expectation that a favour will need to be returned at some point. Instead just do something helpful or say something positive to someone. If you work in an office, maybe when you have been photocopying you could refill the paper when you’ve finished to save the next person the trouble, make a pot of tea or coffee enough for everyone,offer to help a colleague with a heavy workload if you have time, give up your seat on the bus or train, pass your finished newspaper or magazine on to someone else to read. Show your appreciation for someone who gives you good customer service in a shop or cafe, either just thank them and specifically tell them what they did that impressed you, or even better let their manager know. Kindness doesn’t have to cost a penny or even any of your time. Take an interest in people and if you know they tell you about something that’s happening for them in the next few days make and effort afterwards to ask them how it went. It’s great to make people feel important.

Never expect anything in return for your kindness, but when you are on the receiving end of kindness be sure to show your appreciation. The payback for you will be buzz you create by sharing all this kindness, and the positive mindset that you gain from it. There are health benefits too, both physical and psychological. Just think how much we can raise people’s self esteem and reduce stress just by being kind, helping out and making people feel good.

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For help with personal development, having a positive outlook, overcoming your barriers and achieving your goals, email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.

I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at the address above if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)

Go With The Flow

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It can be hard to let go and trust that things will work out. It takes confidence to relinquish control of a situation and detach yourself from the outcome, but often that’s exactly what you need to do. Your fear of letting go can end up being a barrier to a successful outcome. So, take a deep breath, trust that things will work out, and let the tide carry you. You will be surprised how easy it can be to just ride the waves.

If you would like motivation, inspiration, book news and offers direct to your inbox, click this link http://eepurl.com/ToyJz  or go to the ‘join us’ tab on the menu.
For help with personal development, having a positive outlook, overcoming your barriers and achieving your goals, email me at unfoldyourwings@outlook.com.
I love hearing your success stories and experiences, so email me at the address above if you have something you want to share.
Ruth  :-)